D for Destination

29 Sep

Hello lovelies!!!


Wishing you all a tantalizing Tuesday!


A Quick Recap of My Life Between the Miles


I’m currently riding the metro into work and the commute is burdened with delays. I’m totally fine with it because it means more time my eyes can be buried in a book, scoping out my best move with Words with Friends, reading the news or  blogging  of course!


The delay got me thinking about final destinations. I know I’ll eventually end up at the metro stop where the cinematic sounds of ordinary appliances play a melody of music. I always look forward to it enrapturing me. It puts a permanent smile on my face that is fixed there for the duration of the day, despite any blunders. I know that I will get there. Soon.


My point is delays, a euphemism for obstacles in life in general, often only interrupt the arrival time to your final destination.


Who says you have to be punctual to get to where you’re destined to go…you’ll eventually get there!


Case and Point


I received a notice on September 21st that September 17th marked the date of my divorce. This is a cause for celebration! It means that both he and I are legally free to embark on the separate paths towards our final destination without feelings of malice (I have none).  In my belief my final destination is predetermined and I’m one step (one divorce – ooohhh that’s heartburn) closer to getting there.




My marriage was a blip on the roadmap to my destination. I was operating with an atlas in my mind without a properly tuned compass. The compass (i.e. my heart) urged me to take another route but I am incessantly stubborn. Others who warned me to take a different path themselves got lost in their own potted and sheepish journey to numb reality. A few were also blinded by obstinate presumptions.


Truth is I think we were all half-blinded by disappointment.


Fortunately this was all temporary. Repeat: temporary!




Believe it or not, my divorce doesn’t symbolize anything negative. It was a journey that repaired my vision. I see clearly for the first time in years what I need and expect from myself and from others. I look at my divorce as a right of passage that helps me accept my current destination. It personifies my ability to take a few bumps and bruises to my ego, to take the smear of my name and move forward with my head up.


D for Destination


Life is a series of capricious events. Just because you take a detour (a big one) doesn’t mean you won’t end up exactly where you belong. “An invisible thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place and circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle. But it will never break.” Ancient Chinese Proverb.


And where I belong is exactly where I am! 


D may stand for divorce but divorce is also a part of the destination.


Life is but an incandescent journey. The colors of the ebb and flow: mistakes, blemishes, soiled reputations, misgivings, love, compassion, empathy, peace, acceptance, passion, fondness, ardor, and love affairs that last through the barrage of it all it’s one inexplicable masterpiece. A masterpiece tousled with some opaque colors married with the rouge of fate.


With that, I propose that you own your story. Paint with unabashed freedom! After all, the monotony of drab circumstances help to illuminate the artistry of life, love and its longevity.


Enjoy your unprecedented journey to your destination!


Thanks for stopping by!








3 Responses to “D for Destination”

  1. FLRunnerBoy89 October 2, 2015 at 6:59 pm #

    You always put your thoughts into words so wonderfully Val!!! Here’s to reaching your much deserved destination and the Chinese Proverb is AMAZING!!! 🙂 LOVE!!! LOVE!!! LOVE!!!

    • valerietoth October 2, 2015 at 7:01 pm #

      Lee! My man! Thank you so much for taking the time to read this! You are phenomenal and I miss your blogs. But your comments give me that motivation and extra umph just as equally! Cheers to you and me for finding our way to the finish line despite our injuries! 🙂

      • FLRunnerBoy89 October 2, 2015 at 7:06 pm #

        Awwwww thanks Val! The feeling is mutual!!! And you better be enjoying the fall for me because it’s still freakin’ hawt down here! I have my first massage therapy appointment in a series of 3 shortly. Hoping it can free up this wonky leg. If not it’s on to acupuncture.

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